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One of the great issues that occupy us with children is that of discipline. All of us who are parents want to find the exact balance that allows us to set limits and get our children to respect them, without going to extremes that make us feel guilty and without damaging our relationship with them. The task is not easy, it is a process of trial and error in which we must make continuous adjustments.
A vision that offers us great alternatives is positive discipline, that is based on love, respect, understanding and takes into account both the needs of children and parents. Furthermore, when applied well, it manages to reinforce the affective bond. Therefore, here are some ideas and techniques to apply positive discipline with children, taking into account their age.
Almost from the moment children are born we can begin to apply some positive discipline advice. These are some of the ones to keep in mind.
1. Model him with your example
Babies learn what they see, so your example is key. Take care to keep your tone of voice soft, try not to lose control of situations and try to be a permanent positive role model for him.
2. Distract him
If your baby is engaging in dangerous behavior or you see him about to throw a tantrum over something he wants or has lost sight of, try suddenly distracting him with some new stimulus. You will see that it is quite easy and you can save yourself a moment of crying and scolding. They will both appreciate it.
3. Take care of the language
Try to reserve 'no' for very dangerous or unwanted situations; For the rest, try to use positive phrases.
4. Be consistent
The things that a baby is allowed and those that are not, cannot depend on our mood. For example, if you do not allow him to play with the television remote control, you should not allow it at any time, even if it is to distract him; be sure to swap it out for a toy he can use every time
As children get older, we must incorporate other positive discipline strategies that respond to their behavior and level of development. Keep the following tips in mind.
5. Stand firm
Usually as they get older, children begin to try what is allowed and what is not. It is not something they are doing to bring out the worst in you, they are simply experimenting. Stick with NOT allowed behaviors and try to distract him with something else so as not to let him progress to a more complicated situation.
Be on the lookout for the signs that precede a tantrum and try to anticipate them as much as possible. There are key moments, such as when they are hungry or sleepy or very tired.
7. Ignore negative behaviors
Once you've made it clear that he can't do a certain thing, like play with something dangerous, he will likely start crying or throwing a tantrum. Make sure no harm is done and try to ignore that behavior if possible; this will often cause the behavior to extinguish itself.
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If you have a child from 3 to 5 years old, you must take into account the following keys. Little by little, the little one can take on more and more tasks and will like to feel involved in the running of the home.
8. Assign you a responsibility
Despite his young age, it is time to assign him some task that he is capable of consistently performing. This will help make him feel useful and begin to understand that he is responsible for something like feeding the dog, watering the plants, putting up the tablecloths, etc.
9. Give you a chance to make decisions
In the situations that are possible, give him to choose between several alternatives such as clothes, dish to choose in a restaurant, etc. This will help you to be more confident and understand that there are things you can choose from and others that are not open to discussion.
10. Do not give eternal explanations
Children at these ages usually question why they should do certain things. Explain it once clearly, but then stay firm and save yourself repeating the same phrases over and over again; change them to "I have already explained it to you and we are not going to discuss it further."
11. Do not argue with him in the middle of a tantrum
Don't pretend that in the middle of a tantrum your child can understand your reasons. Wait until he has calmed down to talk to him about what went wrong; it will be much more responsive.
12. Use stories and movies to model behaviors and values.
This is a wonderful age to model positive behaviors, values, and ways of knowing and managing your emotions through stories and movies.
As they grow older, children demand different types of care and face different problems. Parents must accompany them, taking into account the following positive discipline tips.
13. Make it clear what 'privileges' you have
Instead of using the word 'punishment' continually let him know the privileges he enjoys for his good behavior, such as watching TV, playing with the table, going outside to play, etc. In this way, in cases where he commits a significant fault, those 'privileges' will be suspended for a time, until they are won again.
14. Help you analyze situations
Whenever there is opportunity, help him find the relationship between something he did and what came next; whether it is something positive or negative. Sometimes understanding that relationship is still difficult for them, even if it seems obvious to us.
15. Make sure you understand the relationship between effort and reward
Don't give him everything he wants. When he wants something, help him set a goal to get it.
16. Let it get frustrated
Getting frustrated because something doesn't come out the first time or because you don't have everything you want is part of life and we are of no help if we continually avoid these feelings. The best way to develop tolerance for frustration in your child is precisely to let him feel it and motivate him to keep trying or to wait for something he wants (the good thing, it costs).
There are many ways to apply positive discipline with our children and enjoy the process. Calm and self-control are our best allies.
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